Rob Bell writes in “Sex God”:

Love is handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don’t want it.  That’s why it’s such a crushing ache on the inside. We gave away a part of ourselves and it wasn’t wanted.

Love is a giving away of power.  When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose.  They can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step toward us in gratitude and appreciation.

Love is a giving away. When we love, we  put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

Love is giving up control. It’s surrendering the desire to control the other person.  The two – love and controlling power over the person – are mutually exclusive.  If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.

I don’t have much to say about this, its probably best I don’t…but reading this has resonated so much with me.  It’s something I’ve learned, am learning and will continue to learn.  This has been something in the forefront of my thoughts.  It’s something that I pray to God that He makes a new in my life each and every day, that as I interact with others, I demonstrate this.  However there is a risk, one that can and would potentially hurt. I’ve felt that sting, It’s a good chance it could happen again.

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